Aspergers Mommy

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Well I am a mom of two wonderful kids that I have been blessed with!!! I am not a psychiatrist, or a doctor so anything I say is not the answer to all, it might not even be the right thing for me!! lol I do my best with who and what I have to overcome any challenge with lots and lots of prayer,my mom who is God given just to me for this very reason, my sisters, and friends! I love life, mostly positive........BUT I am insane at times, get to the point of wanting to explode! lol.. I sing kids songs way too much! Did I mention I am OCD when it comes to cleaning. Which believe it or not I think is what keeps me sane. When I clean, I love it. Breakdowns, crying, talking, just all seem to be ok as I clean..Thank God for OCD!!!

Thursday, May 26, 2011

ASpergers, a wonderful day until the last 1 minute May 26,2010

Well its Thursday.. No Livestock!! lol

My prayers are going out to everyone who was effected by the storms! I have made a list and will be adding more every day of places to donate, not just money to help. How to help!!  Also there is a lost and found facebook page we set up. Lost and found items from the tornado.

Yesterday was as close to perfect as it gets for us!!! WOOOO HOOOO

Went to work and was quite busy with recovery effort coverage and the day went very fast it seemed.

I got home and mad dashed to put a meal together for the girls before I got them... Thinking smart tonight! Mini hamburger, NO CHEESE... green beans and a couple chips with beans and cheese on them.... Juice ready.... Now it is time to go get the girls.. I hope the day went well, I hope the night goes well....

I step in the door.. Here comes Samarra.........MOMMY!!!!!!!!!!!! I will give you one guess what she said next............. Your right.. your learning.. Is dinner ready?? I said Yes it is! NOW I get Oh mommy I love you so much, your the best mommy ever... lets go.. can we go, come on lets go.. I'm going.... I am ignoring her.

You know I think this week I may give in to Cici's Pizza.. I got a coupon in e-mail for free kid buffet, so why not right.. I am not FOND of the food, but I do have to admit the pepperoni flip is pretty tasty... great now I am craving chips and a flip... ugggg.... Loosing weight kinda sucks, but I'm getting there= ) Who knew lettuce and salsa craves my chip craving.. Thank GOD!

Ok, we are home and she is already eating before I get the baby in the door. I sit them down together and they both eat while I clean up stuff. Sister-in-law calls to give me a storm damage update... Apparently the transformer outside their house blew up and so did their phone, modem, air-conditioner, and water came in the house... BUT, they are all fine, but hot!

Night goes on, her and the baby are playing so well......I wonder if Samarra is sick? I don't think so. She hasn't tried to kill her sister not even once! Life is good. I join in the play on the bed.

Ok so you know kids are gullible right?? Well even with her high IQ, hahahahaha somehow I convinced her that the gas bill that comes in tells me how often someone in the house farts.. OK, maybe too much information sorry, skip this paragraph is you don't want to read it. but don't tell me these conversations don't happen at home with kids lol

So Samarra says when is the gas bill coming so I can see if me or daddy farted more.. I was cracking up on the inside, but i really wanted her to believe it.. Maybe it will be one of those things she will remember later in life.. What am I saying, she remembers everything in that steel trap she has. Ok, well i think it is funny..

Ok so it is 8:30 and I just put the baby in the bed and Samarra is going to stay up.. she is playing with her daddy's phone... Calm, I love it!!

My sister Debbi just called me and asked if they could come by and talk to me for a moment and Samarra... Um.. ok...

Debbi and her husband Jonathan (he is a Midwest City Police Officer)came by and they wanted to talk to me first... Well Samarra has been spending more time with them lately and apparently has begun showing more signs of the asperger side with them and the biggest one sounds to be the reactions to not getting what she wants... This is a hard thing to gauge really. I struggle so hard.. is it aspergers, is it her being 6... They say don't react the same to an asperger action as you would to out right being defiant....

Which is which?????????

Well, i decided I am not going to allow any of it.. aspergers or not she MUST learn the proper way to handle her emotions and how she reacts to things and things will not always go her way.

Ok, So Jonathan talked to Samarra and explained very well wha tthe rules are going to be when she spends the night and he is helping out with trying to cut the actions out at home... She will remember ever word he says.. She actually had VERY GOOD eye contact with him.. I was impressed. She had problems moving around but that is normal too... He had her repeat the points and she is to go spend the night with them tonight and he told her he is going to get a report from me on how good she was...

Well heck its bedtime no problem... Did you read the title of the post?? We are getting to the last minute.

Sister and brother leave, Samarra says I am going to be the best girl ecver mommy and wont you be proud.. Yes honey I am will be so proud of you. Oh where is daddy's phone I had it before they came over.... She follows me in the room, she sees it on the dresser, she picks it up and I say, honey daddy is going to bed soon and he needs it to be plugged up to get charged, leave it there.

Her:But I was playing it and he said I could so you cant take it back, he said it!
Me: But that was earlier honey
Her: If I dont get to play then daddy lied!
Me: No it just got late
Her: Folding her arms, mad face, you said... you said... he said....
Me: OH man here it comes...
Her: Why dont you find something to watch on tv?
Her.. I want to play with phone he said... Crying, anger is just welling you can see it, she grabs as she walks by a hand full of clothes and tears them out of the closet on to the floor.. saying.. you not suppose to say things you dont mean. it is lying!

I didn't even follow her I sat watching the game.. lol I got up in about one minute and went out to check on her and she rocking on the couch... this is a new one...
I ask her what she is doing, she said it gets the inside out and she feels better... WEIRD.. but ok... I told her, you know your not going to Aunt Debbi's and Jonathan's house now right?? She says why, I said because you remember what Jonathan said.. She says yes, and i didn't lie...

Anyway, so Debbi, Jonathan if your reading this.. not spending the night...Oh well, I have a feeling she wont be ever again.. lol But we will see= )

Slept well, woke up good, daily routine of food for the baby, but one thing was added this morning... All the blankets and pillows around the baby again.. She loves it though!!!!!!

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHH BTW today's wimgo deal looks DELISH and I am getting a few so the family can go check it out! You should too and we can swap reviews!!!! Here is the link to go get it.. Come on you have $11 WIMGO daily deal

Have a Great Thursday!

1 comment:

  1. Ok, we all know I am almost always going to take Samarra's side. On that note- you did say she could play with the phone. I know that is easier for me to say not being right in the middle of everything but I dont know how anyone could really be upset with her for being disappointed. Maybe she could have handled her frustration in a different way but isnt that part of the learning curve? We all know as old as I am I am still learning on how to handle